Throughout the years I have gone through numerous amounts of breakups and countless heartaches. Are parents always tell us "You will find someone who deserves you" or "You were too good for him", but are we really listening to what they are saying? My past relationships were volatile, mostly because I was young and immature and tried to plan out every little detail of our relationship. Now that I have grown up a little bit, and have had my single fun days, as well as long term relationships, I figured out the three key ingredients to having a successful partnership.
The three key ingredients to a healthy and happy relationship are TRUST, COMPROMISE and COMPASSION. Trust, which I think is the biggest thing to have in a relationship with anyone, not just your significant other. Trust means you don't have the need to look through his phone and creep on his Instagram because you're afraid of seeing him do something wrong. That is pointless and not going to get you anywhere ladies. Because if you are already thinking those thoughts, then you are probably with the wrong person. When you fully trust someone you don't worry about who they are "snapping" or "texting". You should know that you are their main priority.
As for compromise, that is a big thing I had to work on. It took me a long time to finally figure this one out and I am still working out it to this day. Compromise is letting your boyfriend sit and play "Fifa" or "Call of Duty" for 6 hours straight without complaining about wanting to do something else. Because you allowing him to do something he wants to do, will make him want to return the favor (HELLO SHOPPING SPREE AND SPA DAY LADIES). Compromise is deciding on a movie together. It might to be the one you really wanted to see, but you'd be surprised by getting out of your comfort zone you might enjoy his choice more!
Compassion is the most difficult for some, because often times we put our needs and ourselves first, when in all actuality we should be putting others first. When your boyfriend is going through a hard time and needs some support the best thing you can do is listen to everything he says and just soak it all in. Being patient in times like these is whats going to make your relationship 10 times better.
Keep in mind I am only 21 years old, but I have also had three long-term relationships all that have been a flop, but that I have definitely learned from. Growing up isn't easy, and neither are relationships, they are hard work. What you have to ask yourself is "is this worth it?".